Showing posts with label both/and thing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label both/and thing. Show all posts

Monday, February 1, 2016

Heart Thinking and Breaking

The Mystery within...
I was surprised when I learned thinking occurs in our physical heart as well as our brain.  Initially I thought heart thinking would be the goal since I imagined it would soften the ego and our response to others.  But then I remembered Parker Palmer's On-Being reflection, "An Invitation to Heartbreak and the Call of the Loon" where he says there at least two ways for the heart to break:  "…it can break open into new life, or break apart into shards of sharper and more widespread pain." So that makes heart thinking and breaking, like everything else, a both/and thing. 

News features this past week broke my heart.  First it was of a grandmother that took a walk in the woods with her two-year-old grandson and became separated from him.  Days later the child was found dead.  My heart broke again on hearing of the death of three children in a house fire when the eleven-year-old sister successfully got one young sibling out but died trying to save two who remained in the house.

The last five lines in Mary Oliver's poem "Lead" read:

"I tell you this
to break your heart,
by which I mean only
that it break open and never close again
to the rest of the world."

Hearts broken open must be the positive force behind human progress.

What if we all were willing to let heartbreak break us open to the rest of the world?


Monday, August 24, 2015

Up North

The Mystery within...
I was vacationing last week in Wisconsin’s north woods with my daughter, grandchildren and Oliver, our yellow lab.  Oliver was still a puppy last year when we were at the cottage but he definitely remembered being there.  When he got out of the car and realized where we were he did his happy dance, bounding around us in short fast circles while intermittently popping in and out of the lake.

Upon our arrival my daughter saw a hummingbird.  I didn’t see it but heard and felt the fast flutter of its tiny wings above my head.  So I looked up Hummingbird in my Medicine Cards book and it says, “Hummingbird can give us the medicine to solve the riddle of the contradiction of duality.”  I know something of that powerful medicine.  It saved my life when I came to realize that everything is a both/and thing.  My reflection titled Silence in God Never Hurries highlights that learning.  

Later in the week my thirteen-year-old granddaughter and I were gifted with an adrenalin rush at the sight of a very big black bear that looked right at us as it crossed the road only 150 feet ahead of us as we were returning from a bike ride.  Bear medicine fosters introspection and finds winter safety in a womb-like cave where experience is slowly digested and truth is found.  The Medicine Cards book states:  “Many tribes have called this space of inner-knowing the Dream Lodge, where the death of illusion of physical reality overlays the expansiveness of eternity.  It is in the Dream Lodge that our ancestors sit in Council and advise us regarding alternative pathways that lead to our goals.”

When I’m up north I somehow feel more connected to those who have enjoyed this cottage but have moved on ahead in death--my husband, youngest son, parents, and in-laws.  Do they now reside in the pines and birch, in the patter of rain on the roof, or in the lake’s sunny sparkle or the crescent moon’s path of light across the still night water?  Is it an illusion that I am now living while waiting for eternity?  Death too must be a both/and thing.

I did get to cross off one thing on my bucket list last week.  I don’t remember if I heard it is in Greenland or Iceland where people like to sit outside and watch daylight become night.  I’ve always wanted to do that so I sat out on the pier as the sun was beginning to set and waited for the moon and stars to come out.  It wasn’t easy.  I kept feeling like I should be doing something else.  My wish is to watch more days become night until it feels really easy.


What if we could all learn to enjoy sitting outside and watching day become night?