|The Mystery within...|
Just as Kermit the Frog sings, “It’s Not that Easy Being Green,” I have been thinking this past week it’s not that easy being good. My daughter recently gifted me with New York columnist David Brook’s latest book, “The Road to Character” in which I read we also need to help others be good. I thought, wow, it’s hard enough to be good and then I have to help others be good too. And doesn’t that then open Pandora’s box because what my idea of good is not always true for another. But I am learning there are some guiding principles to promote goodness in myself, and relate to others in a good way.
It seems the first necessary understanding is that I am flawed. In realizing and confronting my flaws, I build character. Knowing that everyday presents opportunities to build character, and serve others, comes through disciplined daily reflection that exposes my limitations, shatters my illusions, and leads to humility. Ironically the gift becomes dependency--teaching indebtedness, knowing that I am just a part of the greater whole. It also teaches me, regardless of the flaws of others, I need to affirm each person’s inherent dignity. And then like Kermit’s other famous song I understand we are all part of the “Rainbow Connection.”
So being good is not all that easy. Worthwhile things aren’t. Real suffering can be involved. But it is the kind of suffering that eventually leads to a larger purpose beyond myself and reveals some of life’s deepest truths where joy is found.
What if our flaws, and those of others, teach use how to be good and help other be good too?